Less Dating Apps And More Dating
Can dating apps work? The quick answer is: yes! But it shouldn’t come at the cost of your sanity. The problem that many daters are facing in modern culture is that the datings apps never seem to lead to actual dates!
What’s up with that?
For one, due to seemingly endless possibilities of swipes, whether on the apps or IG, or whatever other social media tickles your fancy, it’s feels impossible to choose who is “worth” the time & effort of actually going on a date.
The last thing anybody wants is to have an entire relationship take place via text, only to end in confusion before a first date actually happens!
Here are a few ways to ACTUALLY go on more dates, rather than remaining in text purgatory.
Make a plan within a day of matching with someone. Did you hear that? I didn’t say you should suggest “hanging out sometime.” I said MAKE A PLAN. Which is different. Yes, different!
Making a plan includes proposing a time, date, and location to meet at. I know. Crazy.
*Pro tip: suggesting a unique location or activity will increase the likelihood that the date actually happens. For example, who wants to miss an ax-throwing date, or back out once a rez has been made?
Hop on a call or Facetime shortly after you match! Jumping on the phone can eliminate some of the worries that come with meeting in person, and can answer questions like, is this someone I could really spend an hour or two with?
Even if it’s just a quick chat, taking the guesswork out of figuring out someone’s vibe can make you feel more secure moving forward.
Not to mention, it’s a small level of commitment that shows the other person is on the same level of “seriousness” as you are, and conversation is more likely to lead to an in-person date.
Perhaps the most AND least obvious is to get off the apps and meet people IRL! Approaching someone in real life can answer all of those first-impression questions so you don’t need to walk into your date starting from scratch!
For tips on how and where to meet people, stay tuned for future blog posts. In the meantime, remember to be bold, but also be respectful of others’ space.
Don’t simply ask for their number- ask if they’d like to hang out with you sometime, then if they give you the green light, you can ask for the best way to follow up with a plan.
Last but certainly not least, don’t waste time trying to determine whether someone is right for you BEFORE you meet. Online conversation and even pictures can never truly show someone’s personality, or whether you’d be a great match.
In order to figure that out you really need that face to face. Bite the bullet and initiate a date. After all, you never know who might pleasantly surprise you!
